Part time parent

I know people who are part time parents. They do it artfully and you know you are one when:

1)The daily modicum does not bother you. Children grow on their own is your motto!
2)It does not matter whether you speak with the children or not. They are there like your favorite potted plant.
3)Their fears or phobias do not matter. Somebody else is handling it.
4) It is even more better if there is no financial involvement. The other parent is taking care of it. After all I paid with my sperms!!!!!
5)The thought that someday when children grow up, they come sniffing after  the money so how does the growing years matter.
6) When children become adults, therapists can successfully change how they think about their part time parent.
7) You admonish more and love less.
8)You know the children dislike you but the part time parent has to QED that quality time is important and not the quantity.
9)Your heart does not tug at you when your child is ill. The other sucker parent is sitting up tending!!!
10) At the end of the day the children do not remember who gave and who took!!!!

 

My daughters, fearless and frank.

Last night was a humid and sultry one. The rains have deserted Mumbai . The greens of my garden longed for water from the skies.
I was up reading and writing. Writing to create the fate of my characters and playing God.  The cuckoo from my clock came out and cried two times. It was 2 am in the morning!

Sleep still eluded me. The kids were sleeping in their room.
I felt the need to step out of my room and see if all was okay. Or if I were to hone in I would say that I felt someone moving around.
I walked out to see Aaliyah walking up to her room with a glass of water. All of eight years old. At 2 am she climbed down the stairs ( her room is at a level higher than the kitchen's) and reached the kitchen, She poured a glass of water for herself and walked back.
'I was thirsty, she explained.
When did this happen? She is not frightened of the dark. She did not want to disturb me. She represented to me growth. Two years ago the swaying palms in her balcony scared her and last year fictional characters from her favorite TV serial.
Today nobody can frighten her with ghosts or monsters or like.
When we were watching a movie on Helen Keller, Aaliyah said she did not want to watch the young Helen. The dramatization of the young Helen was painful. I thought Aaliyah was frightened.
She said that she was disturbed by a young girl who was impaired visually and could not hear as well.
She is growing up as a rational, fearless woman.
I am a proud mum....
 

I am a superwoman!!!!

I realized this when:

1)I began managing my job, family and my writing efficiently.
2)In spite of being in an unequal relationship I never let it affect my self esteem.
3)years of being side lined in relationships I did not aver my faith in myself!
4)I handled my pregnancy, delivery and back- to- my 58 kg frame single  handedly.
5) My book featured in all the major critics list.
6)the treatment meted out to my children by their father when they were young makes me feel sorry for him!!!!!!! Such apathy towards the young needs penance!!!
7)Relationships have to be nurtured. It cannot work with only one giving and the other judging!!!!
8)friends who are with me for decades and new friends have made me and want to make me a part of their life!!!!!!
9) Sex drives can go up or down. It does not mean a thing in a relationship.  My orgasm today is a cup of hot ginger tea with a nice salad.
10)I fix breakfast, lunch with my own hands for the grateful and the ungrateful!
11)I am a hands on mother. I drop the kids to school, feed them, pay for their school, buy stuff for them, take an interest in their lives, activities and try to raise them as good human beings.
12)At my work place I have reached where I can call a spade a spade and also move on....
13)I have sold houses, purchased houses and remodeled them.
14)I do not have a need to be accepted. Others have to fit in!
15) I have moved on from issues that used to affect me by contemplating that ,'If I do not matter, then I have no business to be here'. I am important.
16) I pretend that I am an army wife whose husband is on the front and the problem is mine and solution also!!!!!
17)my new manuscript is racing to an end.  And I have people in the literary world waiting.
18) I can still be happy when a cherry tomato grows on my plant, I hear a new tune or I buy a new dress!
19) I can dance, laugh loudly, sing and reach out to people.
20) I am the Margaret Mead of my life!!!!!!!
21) Yet, I am a woman, vulnerable and like the mosaic of an old mosque.


 

Faiz Ahmed Faiz- Salutations!!!!

Vo log bahut Khush_qismat the
jo ishq ko kaam samajhate the
yaa kaam se aashiqii karate the
ham jiite jii masaruuf rahe
kuchh ishq kiyaa kuchh kaam kiyaa

kaam ishq ke aade aataa rahaa
aur ishq se kaam ulajhataa rahaa
phir aakhir tang aakar ham ne
donon ko adhuuraa chhod diyaa

source- Urdu poetry.com

And an underdog called Sabina loses her job

So there was a cat fight in the kingdom. P Freud"s girl Vapidity got into a brawl. The story goes like this:
On a hot humid day in the kingdom Sabina entered Vapidity's room and started screaming and behaving in a manner that did not befit the ethics of the kingdom. The issue was related to some dates of recruitment.  Allegedly Sabina pushed Vapidity.
Vapidity screamed and cried. She is the head of recruitment. Her defense is that she needs to wail to let out her steam. And then some other mortals physically separated Sabina and Vapidity.  Vapidity had a look that said,' I am hurt beyond doubt 'and she went around like a martyr.
According to the bird the motto of  a mature HR person is to behave with grace and control if at all another employee is losing it. And why is Sabina losing it with Vapidity????? Vapidity, it takes two to tango!!!!! Incase you did not know.

Now the justice expended.... Sabina was sacked by P Freud who was full of sympathy for Vapidity who she felt was very sensitive, very wronged and yada yada yada.
THIS IS SO WRONG.  Justice is not served. It is denied.
Great successful companies in such cases sack both the employees or keep both. In this case the underdog, contract employee was asked to go while the person in power was asked to stay.
I AM DISGUSTED.
The message it gives is: 1) The contract unrepresented worker is expendable.
2) People like Vapidity in power are graced.

Should the bird fly to the Emperor and chirp?????
Let me know.....




 

Violations in the kingdom

And so everybody is trying to find their mojo in the kingdom. The Stick man and Ken seem to have settled into the depths of inefficiency.
Barbie is being tried by the courts. Tch Tch she must mend her ways.
However, I as the bird on the tree can see it all. The bird is friends with all.
P Freud is speaking a lot. P Freud does not realize the porosity of the kingdom. P Freud comes across as a start up venture!!!!!!!!! with a trustometer!!!!
Well, P Freud also violated....... P Freud showed salaries and proposed hike to Robot. And discussed issues of the same to Robot who has no stake in this. Salaries and proposed hikes are private and very personal, so God said!!!!
Robot was shocked however curiosity got better. And so now every one knows everything!!!!
Shame....
Is this ethical in the banana republic???? I think P Freud has done the office it is holding a dishonor.
What can be the solution? No answer!!! The plot thickens!!!!!
P Freud needs a scotch tape, Robot may do the hatch job.
The slow steady wheels of the kingdom are moving at a snail's pace.
The Emperor seems to have also sobered. The bird wants to have a tete a tete with him.

Chirp Chirp I have to fly away. The dead bodies are rotting here.
 

The knigdom's mantras

Come on Barbie, let's go Barbie....this was Ken's corporate mantra !!!!!!
Where is the center of least work? was Barbie's mantra
'How to do nothing and make it look like work? was Mermaid's mantra
'Yeh sab kya ho raha hain, was colored man's mantra
;I can see better because my head is inches higher, was Giraffes mantra
'How to make grown ups frightened of fire, deluge, bubonic plague, volcanoes and the unseen to retain my state, was the Stick man's mantra
'Hear Hear..The king has something to proclaim (when he actually has nothing)....was the Byron's mantra
'The kingdom is earning in brass, spending gold..now how to show diamonds....was the coin man's mantra
And the real knights who worked to keep the hearth of the kingdom warm had a  ,' How can I get out of here? mantra
The Emperor's mantra.........
I love you!!!!!!!!