Female Empowerment

We, the women in INDIA are treated more shabbily than the ones in our neighboring countries.  And in work space its even worse.  Patriarchal hegemony from society enters the work place.
All sexual harassment must be taken seriously. There is no little or more harassment.
This post is a general pointer for you and me:

1) "You must increase your tolerance"- If anyone tells you this whilst you are discussing a violation that happened to you, please walk away. This person has no business to be talking to you. And report this person.
2) "Holding hands, hugging is okay"- Sorry, It may be ok for you. But not for me. I choose who I want to hold hands and hug.
3) "It has happened to me. And see me now"!- Your experiences are not my yardstick. Too bad you are a weakling. I am not.
4)" Treat all that happened as experience" - Fuck you! My experience is my hard work, my dignity and esteem. That I was used is not experience for me.
5) " You move out of the department and we will place you elsewhere" - Excuse me! I an the one violated. Why should I move out. The person who made me feel so has to move out.
6)" He had fatherly feeling for you. You must respect that" - Fuck you again. My father does not make me feel like this. Does yours?
7) " Don't forget he has got you here. He is your mentor: - Super! So I sell my body to him?
8) ' You are not raped. no? - No, I am not raped. I was not held down physically and raped. But I felt a larger sense of exploitation. Do you understand, you screwball?
9) "You took so long to complain, so while the going was good you had no problem"- YOU IDIOT! I need this job. I bore cos naturally I thought things will change, They did not,
10) "Lets move on. Every one has learned their lesson'-  YOU MORON! I don't want everyone to learn their lesson. I want corrective action. In ancient societies its called punishment.

Women, please, you are a part of a rapidly changing society . You are empowered. Victimhood does not suit you. You are a part of industrialization and economics,
Speak up against oppression.
In case you do not get help anywhere please write to jsncw-wcd@nic.in


#QandeelBaloch
 

Who is your Manager? Modern Mahabharata!!!

Types of Managers:

Dhritarashtra:  Blind. Totally. Guided by another and gives his expert opinions based on the narration. Not a doer.

Sanjay: A narrator of events. Makes no opinion. But knows who the boss is. Albeit blind.

Yudhistra: Thinks he is righteous. Follows the rule book. Risk taker. But the stakes may be questionable.

Arjuna: The model manager . Shoots to kill with his team and shares. A leftist. Shares everything.

Bhima: No subject knowledge. Flexes his muscles and tackles the situation.  If he wins he does or he falls flat.

Karna: The underdog. Never rewarded. Keeps crying at every forum. Takes the battle to the end. But never wins it. The end is always certain. He gets killed.

Duryodhan: The guy who will get his target at every cost. Damn values and people.

Bhishma:  The most knowledgeable man. But has not progressed . A lot of respect and all praises. Many may turn up at his retirement party.

Drona: The insecure manager. Will maim his subordinate to aid nepotism. Dangerous to work with

Krishna:  A strategic person. Will philosophize and also create illusions. May create SOPs

AND

Draupadi: Has a gender benefit.  Arrogant. Does not put her foot down.  Capable of creating wars. And expects someone to rescue her always.

Come on, citizens of the Empire tell the bird who your manager is!!
Or has the bird missed any!

Plumage!!!!

Queen Elizabeth cannot visit the Empire (she wears a hat)
Hilary Clinton cannot visit the Empire (she wears short skirts)
Merkel , Germany ( she wears short skirts)
Angelina Jolie definitely cannot

On the other side

Donald Trump can
Andaleeb (lady asking for separate Kashmir) can.
Most of the Taliban can
All the above are dressed properly

as per

a  new fatwa , in the Empire ,on the feathers we wear. The author of this fatwa is P Freud. And if all the members of the Empire follow this fatwa they will look like P Freud, Goldfish and Vapidity.

The fatwa lacks punch words like decorum and is more like the personal taste of an individual's clothes.
Did the Empire  need this? No!

The fatwa only has to take care of decorum. Decorum is relative.
The criminals normally wear a suit and tie not tattoo and stripes!

But the bird is beautiful. She will show off her plumage and fly high. She can do it because she does not live on the ground of the Empire.

Fly with the bird!


 

Kathal achaar ( jack fruit pickle)

Heat Panch phoron in mustard oil
When it splutters add red chilly
Then vinegar
Let it boil
Add a bit hing
A little jaggery
Add in the kathal (jackfruit)
Keep it in a summer sun  in a ceramic jar ,as long as it is there
Eat it with lachcha or plain paratha!

My tribute to UP and Pragya Bharati from there!

The new ten!!!

The Ten Commandments of the Pastor

1. Thou shalt not be independent
2. Thou shalt not speak with anyone
3. Thou shalt inform every move to the Pastor
4. Thou shalt speaketh with a fake accent
5.Thou shalt mark every correspondence to the church
6. Thou shalt wear clothes that resemble a hijab or a nun"s habit
7. Thou should be servile
8. Thou should be fake
9. Thou are a woman . Behave like a slave
10. Thou , when you decide to work with me is doomed.

To mothers and mothers!

Today is Mother's day. And the electronic media and print media is buzz with wishes. Fake and false!  Nine months and a lifelong role is a mother is back breaking.

For all the mothers from me:

1) take care of yourself. Sons and daughters and husbands go. You are eternal . You stay on.

2)never lose your feminity. Color your eyes with kohl , experiment with a new shade of lipstick .

3) invest in a hobby

4) have a house of your own

5)be in a position to earn money, always!

6) have friends of your own who you can talk to.

7) keep yourself fit. Fat is not done. It's unhealthy.

8) wear clothes of your choice. Damn them who judge. It's your body.

9)Say no to sex if you are tired or unwell.  

10)you'r stretch marks are your tattoo . Get another one if you want to.

11) remember when they have children they will think of you. May call you to take care of their kids. Be strong if you have to say no!

12) do not clutter your mind with useless and negative information. Learn to move away from swamps.

13)Don't fret to be included everywhere. You are better off where you are.

14) Secure your phones and laptops with passwords that only you can open. You also need privacy.

15) say no when you have to. Don't break your back by making your yeses happen.

16) and lastly you are Shakti. Strength . You can create and you can destroy .

Happy mother"s day!

The anatomy of a burn.

Four years ago I suffered a burn. It was as early as five in the morning. It was a bad one. The burn left a scar all the way from my upper leg to my forelimb. The brown discolouration on my skin is my Tatooo . What  I learned from my burn:
1)The pain of women who are burned for dowry or any such gender crimes
2)when hot water falls on your track pants, your burned skin sticks to the track. The brand was Reebok
3)your face turn ashen white when you see the epidermis on your track and your skin pink white
4)When the hot water fell I Instinctively crossed my legs and protected my private parts. Natures way of protection
5) I poured cold water on my burns and tears streamed down in pain. But I did not make a sound. So as not to disturb the others who were sleeping.
6) I dropped the kids to school with a straight face . By then bubbles with a thin sheath had formed on my legs.
7)I returned and waited for Dr Shenoy to show my burns. I had finished making breakfast and lunch.
8) I called up my work place to inform about my state feeling the sneer at the other end that this must a tiny scald.
9)My father hauled me into the car to take me to the good doctor. She gasped when she saw my legs.
10) I will never forget her kindness as she cleaned the wound with her own hands and my body responded to her kindness.
11) my younger twin placed a podgy little finger on one of the bubbles and it burst. A liquid streamed out. That was the last patch to heal
12) so that my legs rest, an old lady opened the doors of her home to me and cooked a meal. She is Pramilla Ben .
13) I wore long skirts and t shirts . Everyone wanted to see the burn on my leg and gasp and sympathise with me.
14) I realised burn is also a class issue. Women from my strata of society do not get burned.
15) the leg healed slowly but surely. The doctor burst every bubble ant neosprin powder was my best friend.
16) I also learned to limp to the kitchen and cut upon a packet of MTR bissi belle bath and cooked it for myself thus getting over the fear of fire. This curtesy was someone extremely close
17) picking up the scabs is an interesting hobby. And if you pull the scabs hard then a little blood oozes out
18) the resistance of your body and soul is put to test when you are burned.
19) while living you get a feel of how your body feels when your dead body is burned. Especially the Hindus.
20)Fire sustains and also kills.
21) my father who held me when I was born a pink baby was tears stricken when he saw my pink burned legs. Parents turn old .
22) lastly , caution in the kitchen is numero uno.